While comparison can be a source of self-doubt and frustration, it also gives us the opportunity to recognize our own shortcomings and improve. Comparison is a natural process, and you should focus on following your own path.
As humans, we see and feel a lot of things all the time, and it’s natural to make comparisons. The way you interact with the people around you also involves comparison. We compare ourselves to others and apply them to ourselves. This process of comparison creates emotions, and when you see something you lack, it can lead to feelings of self-doubt, which is not good. This can be a positive thing if you use it as a springboard for improvement, but it can be an emotionally challenging process. I’ve had my own experiences with comparing myself to others, and it’s not easy to overcome emotionally.
However, there is nothing wrong with comparison itself. It is natural as a human being to interact with the world around us, and it is through this that frustration and disappointment arise. It’s a very beneficial process if you realize and acknowledge your shortcomings and want to improve.
We have all developed different personalities and values through different people, different lives, and different experiences, and that’s why we are who we are, and why we are unique, not like anyone else. That’s why I have a way of living, and others have a way of living. Naturally, it’s different, and we have to recognize the difference. No, what is natural is natural, and there is no need to acknowledge it. 1+1=2 is a natural thing without acknowledging it. Of course, there will be envy. If there is something you want to do or have, and someone else has it, you envy them and feel sorry for yourself for not having it.
We have many different types of relationships with people who are different from us: friends, lovers, seniors, juniors, superiors, and subordinates. When something good happens to them, we can share in their joy, and when something sad happens to them, we can share in their sadness. They can share their feelings about things that happen to you. But if you look at it dispassionately, there’s an emotional connection, but it’s their joy and their sorrow. I can give them advice, but it’s their problem to solve, and the benefit of their efforts. Even if I share their feelings, it’s not my business. The same goes for my problems, they are my business, my joys, my sorrows. In the end, the path you walk is your path. It is impossible and foolish to look at someone else’s path and judge you and try to follow it. Others walk their paths, and I walk mine. There is no need to torment yourself by trying to follow someone else’s path. It’s natural to envy those who have what you don’t, but if you focus on the differences and don’t come to terms with them, you won’t progress. I have to judge my own path by my own standards to get what I want. Focusing on the differences and judging my path by someone else’s standards can easily bring me down.
If you envy something about someone else’s path, you need to make it your own from the moment you envy it. The pessimism that says, ‘What have I done to deserve this, while he’s doing that, and I haven’t done anything.’ It’s not true. Why beat yourself up for not being able to walk the walk when it’s different, and it’s theirs. Once you know what you want, you can stop comparing yourself to others in a meaningful way. The time and effort of the person who got what you want first is just a matter of when they realized it.
Now all that remains is your own effort to get what you want. Create your own path, keeping in mind that it’s about getting what you want, not about getting what someone else has. Your path will be different, and the amount of time and effort it takes to get there will be different. Along the way, you may find yourself comparing yourself to others again, but don’t get discouraged. As the saying goes, ‘a mountain made of molehills’, and you can make a mountain out of a molehill. You’re learning lessons and working on them, so tomorrow you’ll be a little better, and the next day you’ll be a little better. If you focus on the things that bother you, comparing yourself to others will only serve to depress you. Stop beating yourself up and focus on the progress you’re making.
